Can a marriage survive infidelity and healing after an affair? I have a gift, and it’s the same gift I use to try to help every single client I have. That gift is the ability to accept reality, through logic, in a very polarizing way. Because when emotions get involved, you are letting your trauma from your past dictate how much pain you should endure. Loving yourself, your boundaries, should be designed around logic. Because any and all decisions you make based on emotions, you are simply abusing yourself if those decisions are keeping you in a situation logic should remove you from. If you want to know a rational answer, then just give yourself the same advice you would give a friend or sibling. Friend comes up and says that they just had the same thing done to them that your partner did to you, what are you going to tell that friend? Right. Because your TRAUMA is not involved in that situation. And no, it’s not different. Your love for others is what causes you to want them to be okay, to remove them from toxic situations, and you need to give that same love to yourself. It can be hard, and I get that, because EVERY part of your fear from your past, all the voices telling you you’re not good enough, that you’re going to fail, that if someone hurts you it’s because of something you did, that if you want love you have to suffer for it, and everything else the world has tried to tell you since you were little, get PIS*ED AS HE** and start telling those voices to STFU. Enough is enough. You’ve suffered enough. It’s time to stop. https://www.quora.com/Can-a-marriage-survive-infidelity-and-healing-after-an-affair/answer/King-7250?ch=15&oid=1477743860909097&share=fb2f0f30&srid=5KxEM&target_type=answer